What you are describing is called a fetish. The causes of fetishism are not clearly understood. Some learning theorists believe that it develops from early childhood experiences, in which an object was associated with a particularly powerful form of sexual arousal or gratification. Our sense of smell is one of the most powerful when it comes to making memories.
I f you can get in close enough, checking out someone's smell is a valuable way of finding Mr or Ms Right. Despite our aversion to smell and our much reduced olfactory areas in the brain at least compared to dogs and horses we are in fact surprisingly sensitive to it. Newborn babies and their mothers can identify each other by smell alone within hours of the birth — which is one reason why we now like to make sure that the baby goes straight on the mother's breast as soon as it is born. This is something that we share with most other mammals. In sheep and goats, the mother learns to recognise its newborn young by smell within 24 hours, and in the following days will allow only that lamb to suckle. And the lambs themselves learn to identify the right mother to suck from in the same way, though they are, perhaps understandably, a bit slower and it usually takes a couple of days' exposure to the mother's smell. In fact, smell provides one of the best markers of who you really are. The reason for this is that your smell is determined by the same set of genes, the major histocompatibility complex genes MHC , as your immune system. It is part of who you are, your personal chemical signature. The MHC gene complex is particularly susceptible to mutation, producing new immune complexes with each new generation.
As soon as she becomes dissatisfied, she will turn face and educate the OP about just how wrong it would be for her to stay with him. My husband gives the very best of himself to the hospital and the staff and patients every day. When I come home, I don't necessarily want to be alone, I just need to do things that will calm or recharge me instead of things that will tire me out more. I also know that whenever exceptions are made, there are reasons. We've been together since he started medical school. You will always be second place. Seclusion has served to preserve their desirable traits, but it also makes it difficult to gain rapport. Better than freezing up and avoiding them altogether. Most of us were Mormons and one point, many of us were even TBMs.
There are a lot of single people in the world. There is no way this will work out. I let her know it's not healthy to expect someone else to change - we can only control ourselves and not others. I do try to send little texts or call when I have time but not as much as he'd like. I've been married to a cardiologist for 30 years.